In an attempt to learn more about each other in the class, my theory professor used skittles to help us with the task. Each color represented a different subject we were to discuss. For example, a red skittle meant we had to say what our guilty pleasure was and if you had a yellow skittle, you had to say what you would do if you had more money. This is where the icebreaker got interesting.
One of my classmates had yellow and she expressed that if she had money, she would get engaged. Apparently, she wants to marry her girlfriend, but her girlfriend said that she wouldn’t marry her unless she has an engagement ring followed by a big wedding. It made me wonder if she cared more about the marriage or the ring and wedding.
I’ve always been a person to cherish marriage over a wedding. A wedding lasts for a few hours, while a marriage is for a lifetime. A few years ago I was having a conversation with someone and I expressed that I don ‘t need a ring to get engaged. Ok, hear me out before you call me crazy. My reasoning was that if a man wants to marry me but didn’t have a ring, would I say no because he didn’t have a ring? In my head I would be putting more emphasis on having a ring instead of wanting to spend the rest of my life with a man who loved me.
Now, I know this might sound crazy to some, but I truly believe that if you want to marry someone, then do so. Will demanding an engagement ring make that person love you anymore and ensure that your marriage will last any longer? In addition to demanding a ring before planning the wedding, I’ve also heard people say that they want to get married but they can’t afford the expenses of a wedding.
I know there is someone reading this is going to think I’m crazy again, but so what if you can’t afford a wedding. You can always go to the justice of the peace or have a small intimate gathering with immediate family members. Weddings today are costing about $30, 000. Yes, it’s a special day. However, if you REALLY cannot afford to spend that kind of money for that Coming To America wedding, why go in debt to pay for it?
Spending an exorbitant amount of money for a wedding won’t make your marriage last any longer. If I had to choose between a diamond ring and a glamorous wedding, or a long-lasting marriage, I’d choose the latter. Diamond rings are nice but they aren’t this girl’s best friend.